Tina M. Ayer, 33; loved --
and lived -- rock 'n' roll
She was known as Mrs. T.
It was because of all the gold
jewelry Tina M. Ayer would wear every day -- crosses and pendants hanging
around her neck and a ring on each finger, just like Mr. T, the TV star from
Did she have any favorites?
"They were all her favorites," her daughter Kayla Marie D. Abbenante Ayer, 15,
With the jewelry and the blond
highlights in her black hair, the diminutive Ms. Ayer, 33, was hard to miss.
And impossible to ignore.
"She loved to talk," said
Kayla, as she, her aunt Desiree Phillips and a friend recounted stories about
Ayer. "She was so outgoing."
Kayla and Tina Ayer lived
together in the Oakland Beach section of Warwick. Born and raised in Warwick,
Ms. Ayer was divorced from Kayla's father and didn't live with her 8-year-old
son, Daniel N. White.
Kayla and Tina were more like
friends than mother and daughter.
Kayla remembers when she got
her tongue pierced last year. Her mother came with her and even joked that
she'd get hers pierced too.
"But she looked through the
window watching me get it done, and she was crying she was so scared," said
She was generous and
compassionate, but it was her goofiness that was so endearing, said Phillips.
Ms. Ayer loved rock 'n' roll,
especially those '80s "hair bands" and metal groups. She'd often go to karaoke
bars to sing their songs and even sang at her brother's wedding.
She loved that rock star image,
too. When she wasn't at her job at the Fairfield Inn, in Warwick, she'd put on
a pair of Levi's and a leather jacket and ride Harley-Davidsons with her
friends. She dreamed of buying her own bike one day.
"She was definitely a Harley
babe," said Phillips.
Kayla fidgeted with the rings
on her fingers as she listened. They were some of her mother's.
Ms. Ayer was wearing most of
her jewelry the night of the fire. Her father, Steven W. Ayer, has it now.
Kayla says when she gets it
back, she'll take off the jewelry that's hers and wear her mother's.
"And then she'll be Mrs. T
junior," said Phillips.
Besides her daughter, son, and
father, Ms. Ayer leaves her stepmother, Candy L. Carlow of West Warwick; her
brother, Anthony Rego of North Kingstown; three sisters, her twin, Tammy L.
Ayer of Bristol, Carmen S. Ayer of Rochester, N.Y., and Angel L. Ayer of Rome,
N.Y.; three stepbrothers, Roland J. Carlow in New Jersey, John M. Pucella of
Coventry and Manuel S. Carlow of West Warwick; and two stepsisters, Dawn M.
Carlow of West Warwick and Desiree K. Phillips of East Providence.
-- Journal staff writer Alex